24 Nov

There, I said it! I’ve been told that I lack the ability to say that word. Ironically, my mom is probably the worst about telling me that! Where does she think I got it from?! I say this somewhat jokingly, but she epitomizes someone having a “Servants Heart” and gives more of herself than anyone I know. I certainly don’t claim to have the heart she has and I don’t give nearly the way she does! But, I do struggle with saying “No”. Part of that comes from wanting to be a part of every good thing that is going on around me; part from my sincere desire to help anyone I can; and, maybe, I may be over compensating for spending a lot of years “Taking”. Whatever the reason, I run the risk of being overloaded and burned out! Sometimes, our greatest assets can also be our biggest liabilities. When I take on everything and everybody elses problems, I neglect my primary responsibilities; My God and my family!

Our weekend away has been anxiously awaited for some time now! The main reason is so that we, as a family, could get away from everything else for a little while. The last year has been a roller coaster of emotions and non stop “going”!  On a personal level, I desperately needed this time to refresh and recalibrate. I need to assure that my priorities are not being compromised by my inability to not be involved in everything. My God and my family come first…there is no room for compromise! I realize it is easy to talk about slowing down and refocusing priorities when this is my view as I write this!

However, I have seen this coming for sometime and I have known that I need to make some changes. My prayer is that as I attempt to redirect my efforts and attention, others may realize their own need to do the same. I am asking you to help keep me accountable while we change and grow together.
God has given me this little retreat and as I was reading this morning (Margins by Richard A. Swenson M.D.), He gave me a few reminders:
-“Our weary, withered state is NOT God’s plan”
-“God did not create hurry”
-“Chronic overloading is not God’s Will”

I have this inherent desire to be a part of EVERY “good” project or idea that comes along. Even crazier, is that I think I CAN! The consequence is that I have grown weary, withered, hurried, and overloaded. Combine this with the major things that we’ve had going on in our lives and something has to give before it’s too late. I have stopped asking God to change my circumstances because I have learned that He wants to use them to change me.   So, I am asking Him to change me! That is the point, right!? I am, after all, powerless over everything and everyone else.

A friend/mentor told me several years ago that “The enemy of the best isn’t the worst, It’s the good”. I know that God has Great plans for me! I don’t want to be so caught up in chasing the “good” that I am missing the “great”  I will continue to help wherever I can, especially when it comes to “the least of these” But, I realize that I don’t have to be a part of everything that everybody is doing. My God and my family deserve the best of me and not my leftovers.

I am taking the first few steps toward recovery! I have admitted that there’s a problem, I know that only God can make this right, and now I submit to His will.  I pray for Gods Will to be revealed in all other parts of my life, the ability to say “No” (Sometimes:-) and slow down to rest in Him, and that He would guide my steps and thoughts as I make choices so as to be of maximum service to Him, my family, and those around me!

“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps” Proverbs 16:9

“Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.” Proverbs 19:21


3 Responses to “NO!”

  1. ez37 November 28, 2012 at 11:30 am #

    Good word Jimmy! I always take a little time to refresh. It should be like a law! Pouring into others takes from you, always take some time for yourself, and some for your family! I always wondered why some in ministry neglect the families (wives, kids) that love us the most! Make time, then take it!

  2. Ronald Francis Smart June 13, 2014 at 10:42 pm #

    That’s a very good article. It’s 10:34 p.m. and I’m just getting around to reading it. I know that we are both convicted about God first, then family, and then all the rest. We must go the extra mile, but we do not have to wear ourselves completely out. Amen! Lets keep on keeping on for the Lord Jesus Christ! He will make a way for us! Matthew 6:33; Proverbs 3:5-6, and Proverbs 23:7 (“As a man thinks in his heart, so he becomes. . .”.)

    God bless you and Julie and Keli and Karis! Love you all!

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